Consider carefully …
Eye contact: can be important in building trust or seen as disrespectful or offensive
Greetings: how and when to greet people appropriately e.g. shaking hands is not always appropriate, especially between men and women; expected greetings before any exchange?
Opening and Closing Conversations: who addresses whom when and how, and who has the right, or duty, to speak first; how to conclude conversation/meetings
Taking Turns During Conversations: take turns in an interactive way OR listen without comment or immediate response, as seen as a challenge or a humiliation.
Interrupting:: interruption may be the norm, particularly among equals, or among men OR might be mistaken for argument and hostility.
Use of Silence: silence before a response seen as thoughtfulness and deference to the speaker OR at other times, may be a sign of hostility.
Appropriate Topics of Conversation: speaking openly about money or intimate family issues may be seen as vulgar.
Use of Humour: may build immediate rapport OR be a sign of disrespect .
Knowing How Much to Say: get straight to the point OR much preamble and wrap-up. Age and social standing can influence how much is appropriate to say.
Sequencing elements during conversation: the right question, asked in the right way, but asked too soon or too late, according to custom, can highly influence subsequent behaviour.
Adapted from © 2003 A. J. Schuler, Psy.D. www.SchulerSolutions.com
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